Thank you for writing this. The disregard/disbelief. I had no hope in life, no future as it seemed. They may do this without regard for others or possible consequences. Everyday I sit with teenage girls in crisis, and oftentimes I think they struggling to find the words you expressed so eloquently in your letter. My own experience with my BPD mother was one in which my father, siblings and I were often blamed for her erratic behavior and unstable feelings. I have to also find a doctor. I want to know that honesty and loyalty exist. If it was just a figure of speech, please know that you can make choices to take care of YOU and to prioritize which relationships come first in your world. Thank you for the article. An Open Letter From Myself, With BPD, To My Loved Ones. People started telling me that I was using my diagnosis as an excuse for my bad behavior. Open Letter To All With BPD A.J. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. I am about to go to my brothers wedding and a ton of my family will be there. I am the same as you. She stopped answering my calls when I wanted to know if she would be home for dinner and made excuses to avoid me, staying out until 10 or 11 pm and leaving at 7am each morning. Thank you for taking the time to leave this kind comment, and more importantly, for the wonderful work you are doing to help hurting people. Yes I can see that that it is a long difficult road. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. I'm on many meds. If I continue living how I am, I doubt I'll see the age my mother saw54. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. Now that I know she has BPD, it is too late for me to do anything more to help her. Perhaps you have tried so many things to ease the pain, but nothing has worked. My sister has borderline personality disorder and yes, I am separating myself from her because of the years of abuse directed to me and my family. I figured it out, but only through trial, error, therapy, a good online support group and a lot of introspection and self-care on my part. I am so torn. Between my parents, family, and middle school, I have enough scarring that just won't heal up right. You never know thoughit could end up being really helpful to hear from others who are going through the very same things as you. What is a BPD such as she expecting from me? Thank you for sharing especially during your own struggles. But at least we're acknowlodging it and it's *&^$%&$& hard! There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. Originally, I had intended for those without it to read and hopefully gain just a grain of understanding. I have lost my best friend and the love of my life to untreated bpd and have been in agony while she instantly moved on. I open my doors. Whatever. Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Thanks for the letter just helps a little with the clouser that is impossible to get. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle to understand how wives, husbands, friends, and other family members experience their intense reactions, mood swings, and risky behavior. Aww *hugs* what an insightful post! Perhaps some don't even reach that point. Read it and notice the many lessons within: === "Hello Rick! Punishment And Revenge. Click to enable/disable Google Analytics tracking. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. But first I know I need, and I want to get better. You don't have to be completely "healed" to pursue your dreams. If BDP people are triggered into the abyss of misery, then so are we. Win a copy of my new book, Stronger Than BPD! We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. This is my second year . I tried to help her by pleading not to go back to the guy after he choked her (!!!) I truly believe that I will never get better, because I am surrounded by negative people with negative feelings toward me that I then reciprocate toward them. Learn DBT Skills Online at EmotionallySensitive.com These are the skills that helped this blogs author overcome BPD! I think about dying every single day. Groups are not for everyone. An Open Letter to People Who Write About Borderline Personality Disorder | by Rivka Wolf | Invisible Illness | Jan, 2023 | Medium 500 Apologies, but something went wrong on our end. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. People with BPD typically have very strong emotional responses to events that seem minor to observers. I admire all of you, everyone of you, that can speak out! She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. And now with this kind, loving man by my side I feel comfortableand so he gets the wrath of this chaotic mind. A person with BPD can act in impulsive and often dangerous ways. I have grown up loving my mother who struggles with BPD. You carried on with our children, with your job, with our house and you dragged it all with you like Wonder Woman. In my experience, one of the most effective ways of doing this is to find someone who as gone through the DBT treatment to share some of their experiences with potential or new clients. Everyone is that way for different reasons so how do you know if you deserve for example to write a letter like this to give people around you so they can "understand" and not feel so bad about the whole situation. We fully respect if you want to refuse cookies but to avoid asking you again and again kindly allow us to store a cookie for that. Debbie, Hi Anne thank you for commenting. Keep up all the good work here! I pray that she is able to find a place where you are now. being transgendered i was unable to get appropriate medical help because i was told my gender disphoria was "identity disturbance". You know what it's like, in a way that no therapist does, to live with BPD day in and day out. 4. I have learned with time and education on my part that her pain is not my fault and it is not my responsiblity to fix. He left me nearly 4 weeks ago.It's over now. "People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. I have struggled with relationships. I'm fortunate enough to have a man in my life who is willing to put up with my ups and downs, how mean I can be for no reason so many things. It's nice to hear this from a BPD perspective. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. I knew I had been depressed earlier but nothing major to me. Thank you for expressing so eloquently and non-judgmentally what (I bet) so many with BPD wish they could say to friends and loved ones. And for all those who DO deserve to be helped, be allowed to heal, and their loved ones who deserve to be supported, thank you for sharing this letter that might help them all live better together and individually. I had no idea what the heck it meant to have BPD. I worked as part of a DBT team during the last few years before my retirement. I am sorry I was selfish. I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. You are a source of admiration, thanks for your courage and generous words. DebbieThis is a beautiful, beautiful letter. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. It lays out the facts while giving room for the Non in the person with BPD's life options. My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. You have to find the tools that work for you personally. Email: bpdfamilyconnections@gmail.com. ", As an adult who is trying to work past the damage that was done growing up with a BPD mother reading the last part of your response made me cry. I hope we can be friends in time and partners in raising our son. Once diagnosed BPD, always BPD. You sound like a good and strong person with a huge heart. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. My mother has informed herself about bpd, so that she can give me the support I need in a way that I can accept it. Thank you for sharing it and passing it along! Hugs! Dear Debbie, i am so glad that i found you letter. You *can* overcome this disorder! I guess I'm not doing that well enough. | For some of us, we had childhoods during which, unfortunately, we had parents or caregivers who could quickly switch from loving and normal to abusive. Your lack of emotional control leads you to damage your relationships, leading people to walk away from it, which exacerbates the abandonment issues that are a part of your disorder. Anxiety about relationships, making efforts to avoid being abandoned. So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. I had my breakdown in 2003 at 39 yrs old went from happy and singing to feeling like I was being watched and crawled under my desk at workscared too death to come out and feeling like a little girl. UPDATE: A video version of this letter, com, plete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking, https://www.my-borderline-personality-disorder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/healing-from-bpd-e1577900769964.jpg, An Open Letter From Those of Us With Borderline Personality Disorder. All Rights Reserved. You juggled everything with such grace, intelligence and humility even as your husband found it harder to keep being the man you knew. This is the hardest thing of all for me to overcome. I am also a Type 1 Diabetic of 17 years. This website is produced by members of the Sanctuary Support Group. . . DBT stories from people around the world recovering from BPD. I read your letter Debbie and most of the post. If you are serious about hurting yourself, I need to ask you to please get medical attention right away. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. If you've ever read anything about BPD, you've probably heard of people who are "abusive . BPD, Trauma, and WHY the f*#k did I just say that?! But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. Great job!!! Any suggestions? These cookies are strictly necessary to provide you with services available through our website and to use some of its features. Ultimately, the borderline creates their biggest fear. But I know this is fantasy. 4. But for what it's worth you're brave for writing this letter, and i hope for the people who are genuinely affected by this condition, they are heard supported and loved as they definitely don't need anymore shit. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. I wish more people could understand what it's like, but you're right- we don't know what it's like for them to see us this way either. Madeline Richardson. My late father could've been suffering from BPD without knowing it till the day he died, he was a dream dad at times and abusive at times. Now go for it!! Not all of the situations I described apply to all people with Borderline Personality Disorder. My BPD finance left me VERY suddenly, moved out while I was away, blocked me from phone contact, email contact, unfriended me on FB and other social media, sucessfully compelled her family and friends to do the same and even had a lawyer friend threaten me with a restraining order for calling her from a hotel phone twice! Refresh the page, check Medium 's. An curved arrow pointing right. i haven't figured out what i think about BPD.. i've been diagnosed with it several times and as a result the system has treated me TERRIBLY. I am sorry that my borderline personality disorder (BPD) got in the way of our family and us. Thank you for all you honesty and compassion. I'd probably try again if he asked me, but I know he won't. My mother talks to her and says she doesn't even sound like the person we used to know. They are conditioned to see the behavior as normal and often times they are terrorized by the behavior. September 14, 2018, 3:53 PM. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. This letter really helped me in explaining my condition to all those around me. All in all today I am successfull in all that I set my mind on to do. Talk therapy is the main treatment for BPD. Armon, what a kind, loving husband you are. She has left several times before, but this time I don't see a reunion. She has been diagnosed, but refuses to even acknowledge that half the time (more than half the time) and I have had to take a zero tolerance for any crap in order to protect my family. Even in this letter, she puts me on a pedestal and subsequently knocks me off it. They both feed off each other. Someone needs groceries, even if I barely have enough money to feed myself? Having empathy, or an understanding of BPD, does very little in terms of helping someone heal from, or protect themselves from, this abuse. Hope can be returned. If you make plans, try to keep them, or offer a clear reason why you can't. Make sure you're not blowing hot and cold. For example, a male with BPD may engage in frequent binge drinking of. Debbie, Hi Kat thank you so much for sharing. I have done everything that I know to do for the past 28 years. I hope to afford continuing to see my therapist. If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might have experience with being called "obsessive.". If only we all got it laid out like this. Refresh. I hope somewhere in her heart she truly KNOWS the love I have for her and though I may never be able to see it returned to me, I everyday press on in my efforts to support her and encourage positive change. Proud of you for going back to work. Debbie. But please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior, we also desperately hope that you will not leave us or abandon us in our time of despair and desperation. Once calm, the family can together have an open discussion and achieve setting small goals for the person with BPD. I've been told I would always be this way, I would always be Borderline, always end up messing up my life, always needing care for my psycological issues. Your letter really helped us become closer, as it explained some things in a way that I cannot yet. I would be a misserable person with no goals. Seventy-five percent of those diagnosed with BPD are women in their child bearing age (Lamont, 2006). Your boss is *probably* trying to be supportive and encouraging in whatever way she knows how, but only YOU know what you need in terms of support at any given time. If my sister would actually seek out the help she really does need, instead of expecting everyone to conform to her ideas and expectations, I would be a little more hopefully. My intention was to describe the difficulty while remaining brief. This is called dissociation. Why is it that my therapists tell me that BPD is a useless diagnosis that doesn't do anyone any good, yet I fall into nearly every criteria for the disorder and have since I was a teenager? I am a DBT therapist and work on an intensive DBT unit with adolescents. None. and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! Ask questions. There were some days I was too depressed to go to school or to study, and there were many times I thought "how can I help others if I'm such a mess?" She's 30 years old. I quit writing. Debbie, Hello NB thank you so much for your kind, insightful comment. It is possible that something that you said or did triggered us. Thank you for sharing it with this forum. I have been inspired by people here and I want to share my experiences with everyone as well! . Of course all of this makes me wonder..maybe i'm just lazy or _____ whatever.and then some family members think I *want* to be depressed or anxious or whatever (they think the origin was my mother's death, 20 yrs ago, but I was depressed before that and have told them). I have subjected myself to 2 abusive relationships, and have 2 children by both of my abusers. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. I also shared this letter with my husband so that maybe he will have a better understanding of what I go through. The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient, Got BPD? My voice of reason. People will tell you that whatever you did was your fault, and you will believe it, but they dont and cant understand how hard you fought to keep control. Check to enable permanent hiding of message bar and refuse all cookies if you do not opt in. Otherwise you will be prompted again when opening a new browser window or new a tab. It's like you're a baby learning everything all over again. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) affects roughly 2% of the general population and comprises one fifth of all psychiatric inpatient populations. I think these blogs are more educational than a generic medical article about BPD. Life can be hard for all of us at times, and if you are struggling with the problems that face people with BPD then it can get really tough. I've had many pschiatrists and most never mentioned BPD. I am so happy that you feel it was a help to you, and I appreciate all of the kind things you said. I am sorry for blaming you. Thanks for reminding me that there are people out there who can still sympathise x, I have BPD, i'm from Norway. I'd use this (edit it of course) if I was getting the help I need. I have emotionally detached myself quite well this time I think. Australian BPD Foundation. I am a 39yr old female who recently got diagnosed with BPD. That with the right kind of help and support you can build a 'life worth living'. She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. Its like every step I had ever taken to better myself since my diagnosis, just never happened. I am so thankful that they seem to get it. She told me the other day that I didn't need to be hospitalized or need medications because now i have a job. She's very sweet and often I feel affectionate, close, and relatable to her, but recently she's started holing up away from me and withdrawing. Every single time you bring me back down when I'm fighting through a trembling and breathless panic attack that makes absolutely no sense to you. However, your information, resources and support are consistent, real, accurate and like the comfort of a warm blanket on a cold night. He is desperate I know. Explore the different options for supporting our mission. I miss you all and us so much. My ex has BDP. I want you to know that despite the poor choices, the exhaustion and what youve seen as laziness, I have loved you through it. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). Another thing you may have noticed is that spaced out look on our faces. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. When I was scared, I ran away and hid. Thank you for the letter and I have seen a lot of younger people diagnosed early in life.I remember feeling this suicidal attempt when I was 15..but never went for any therapy..I just lived life and had my children and worked all the time too. It's a horribly helpless feeling to watch someone you love in pain. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. I have absolutely no desire to go since my mother, who is one of my past abusers will be there , and I would rather slit my wrists then be around her because she triggers me CONSTANTLY and seems to enjoy doing so Please help me. I wish you all the best. I really appreciate all of the kind, encouraging words you've offered here. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. Thank you so much for this letter. This was very well thought out and appreciated. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the bedrock clinical manual of the mental health field). That is wonderful. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. You sound like the type of person who deserves as much love and acceptance as you give out x x x Reply freewillg Additional comment actions The more people are aware and care, the more people we can help. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. That is what a fight with a loved one feels like, or how intensely they can feel love for a single person. This letter really hits hard. It is intense, exhausting, and rewarding! The case workers I had treated me no better. I am scared that I am destroying my children, whom I love so very much. I've had some, don't get me wrong, just nothing that's helped long-termand now that I *think* bpd hits the nail on the head, it just happens to be this mysterious, new labeland of course no one can see it. There are many different borderline personality disorder symptoms or traits including: feeling empty inside. Thank you fit writing this letter and for your blog. I am wondering what to do to help her. Reacting to someone with borderline personality disorder is a challenge. Click to enable/disable _ga - Google Analytics Cookie. 1. I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. Children are malleable, they are clay being shaped by their parents and by their experiences. This is just another manifestation of BPD. Honestly, I don't think this letter is helpful, or should have been addressed to the children of BPD's for a few reasons. I no longer do the things I used to do. If you have BPD, you may have had work experiences that upset you, the people who worked with you, or both. She also has recently gotten more busy and a tighter finical situation. BPD & Emotional Distress: Our choices impact our nervous systems, TIRED OF SELF-SABOTAGING?! My question though is that, yes i have a diagnosis and relate to so much of what you say here, but the diagnosis and 9 criteria is just a list of a way someone is. Its smart for us to stay busy and distract ourselves when boredom starts to come on. That evening I spoke to a LCSW who was able to confirm that all her actions (plus a prior divorce, SI, estrangement from her children, abusive father and ex-boyfriends, etc.) I think that one if the distinct differences in the diagnosis is the willingness to show vulnerability. She often tears into me at the slightest provocation (one night a couple of weeks ago, for example, she said she needed some time alone, and locked herself in our bedroom. Distancing can also trigger all kinds of abandonment and trust issues for the "BPD" partner (as described in #4). Copyright 2023 NAMI. My mother has to pretty much do the same thing. So hard sometimes. As you note, they benefit from the mystery around BPD bc they can more easily confuse people, induce sympathy and get people to excuse their abuse etc. I never agreed with the diagnosis either for myself and realized I actually have complex PTSD. Thanks for sharing. This comment has been removed by a blog administrator. Self-harm, threatening or attempting suicide. Copyright 2021 NAMI. It was a touch and go for 3 days. It will help many (like me) who haven't put all these beautiful words and explanations together in such a succinct and informative way.You should be very proud of this as you have quite a command of BPD and how to present it in a respectful and honest manner. Simple as a grilled cheese sandwich. I was 16. I am a woman with BPD. It gives me hope.x. Their moods are so intense that they interfere with everyday life. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. And explains how the "non-BPD" can support and understand those who are suffering from the disorder. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. I wish I knew if there was some real possibility to salvage our relationship or even that we will talk again. From someone that has been through it it means a lot. She emailed me later saying that it was passive aggressive behavior and that she "gets it" I am the one who ended it. You deserve to feel safe. That book made me see that there are good people in the world. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. Every single time you pick me back up when I'm shattered into pieces on the floor. The last incident was only a week ago and it took two days and me apologising in the end in order to solve the problem. Thank you so much for posting this. . My friend is having a sense of impending doom. Thanks again. I don't see what that has to do with anything. I just want to add another thank you for writing this. If you have decided to tap into your strength and stand by your loved one with BPD, you probably need support too. But I fear that she will never forgive me if I maintain I didn't do anything wrong. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. Not someone with questionable actions in their past. BPD, Trauma, Outbursts, & Reality Checks: How much of this is actually real? I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? She is educated and successful, and to all the other people in her life, except for close family, she seems confident and put together. Your mind, your body, are completely taken over and you end up doing something you regret deeply but have to live with. I also see your side and know you must have been through alot with her and you have to protect yourself and your family. You can now share your poetry (or poetry you love) by using the hashtag #MightyPoets. SANE Helpline. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. Well I better get off this pitty pottyMy Daughter just called and she is Barking also. Thank you so much for writing this, I am putting it everywhere I can. It is killing my spirit. I buried and oppressed all my feelings and emotions inside because I was afraid of ruining the one thing I had that made me feel slightly better, our family you and the children. clearly point to BPD. This extreme, black or white thinking and experience of totally opposite desires is known as a dialectic. It has been the most challenging part of my entire life, I love her unconditionally and with all of my heart yet it never seems to be enough, to be noticed, to be accepted. 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